Since I launched my business in 2013, I’ve often written about working too much, stress, time management and being overly busy. Recently I realized that I believe “it is more important that I am productive than joyful.” Ouch.
This is a generational belief for me and one that is hard to break. Clients have been coming to me with similar versions of this belief, including “my value as a human is proportional to my production.” Ouch again.
It is a great thing for all of us to want to serve our loved ones, our communities and our world. However, we do not have to earn our self-care, our down time, or our joy. We are allowed to just be; after all, we are human beings – and not human doings. As Brene Brown says, “Worthy now. Not if. Not when. We are worthy of love and belonging now. Right this minute. As is.”
Remember, a belief is a choice, and we can always choose again. I’m currently experimenting with “I am worthy of joy” and my client is trying “I can waste a little time.” The trick is to show these new, aspirational beliefs that we think they might be true.
So last week on a perfect 85 degree day with low humidity, I played hooky for a couple hours and read by the pool and went swimming. And I saw a Facebook picture of my client on a beach, smiling and looking relaxed. Progress!
What do you believe about your productivity and your worth? What new belief could you experiment with to show yourself your care, relaxation, and joy are just as important as everything else you do?
Wishing you time to just be!
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